Apurva Varma, PhD scholar, Emily Dickinson Award winner, Mrs. Bihar and Mrs. India titleholder, is an author, mentor, and counsellor from Bihar who turned depression, rejection, and unconventional choices into a life of purpose, beauty, and global literary impact.
Apurva Varma: I Chose to Write My Own Story, A Journey of Purpose, Resilience, and the Courage to Begin Again
Not every story begins with extraordinary circumstances.
Some begin in ordinary places, where extraordinary dreams quietly wait for someone brave enough to believe in them.
The story of her began in Arrah, Bihar.
Growing up, she was taught the value of education, hard work, and perseverance. Like countless others, she followed the path that society considered secure. She studied relentlessly, earned her qualifications, and eventually completed her PhD, while continuing her pursuit of Psychotherapy and Counselling because she has always believed that understanding human emotions is the first step toward changing lives.
A Decade Devoted to Education
For nearly a decade, she devoted herself to education. As a teacher and mentor, she stood before classrooms believing that every child deserved someone who believed in them before they believed in themselves. Later, as a Resource Person, she worked to inspire and guide others, knowing that knowledge becomes meaningful only when it is shared.
Yet deep inside her dream waiting to be heard.
A dream that couldn’t be contained within the walls of a classroom.
A dream that wanted to reach hearts across the world.
That dream became “The Weight of Emotions.”
The Book That Changed Everything
Apurva Varma never imagined that the words she wrote from the depths of her heart would one day travel farther than she ever had. Her debut book was honoured with the Emily Dickinson Award of the 21st Century, transforming it into an award-winning work that now reaches readers globally in more than 30 languages, available as an audiobook, eBook, and print edition.
That moment changed the life of Apurva Varma forever.
It wasn’t just recognition for a book. It was recognition for every sleepless night, every silent struggle, and every moment Apurva Varma chose not to give up.
The journey didn’t stop there.
She was honoured with the APJ Abdul Kalam Award for her literary contribution, the Women Icon Award for Literary and Research Work, and the Best Author Award of the Year 2025 for The Weight of Emotions. Each award reminded Apurva Varma that when purpose meets persistence, impossible dreams begin to look achievable.
The Battle No One Could See
But success never tells the whole story.
There was a time when the life of Apurva Varma became unbearably heavy.
For nearly two years, Apurva Varma struggled with depression.
It was a battle no one could truly see, a battle fought in silence, behind smiles, through tears that never reached the world. There were moments when hope felt distant, and every step forward demanded immense courage from Apurva Varma.
But somewhere within that darkness, Apurva Varma discovered something stronger than fear.
She discovered herself.
She decided that her circumstances would never become her identity.
Instead of surrendering, she rebuilt her life piece by piece, becoming stronger than she had ever imagined.
The Boldest Decision
Perhaps the boldest chapter of the her journey came when she made a decision that many couldn’t understand.
she walked away from multiple government job opportunities.
For many, it seemed unreasonable. For Apurva Varma, it was necessary.
Security could have given her a comfortable life, but purpose promised her a meaningful one.
Coming from a place where choosing an unconventional career is often questioned, she chose uncertainty over comfort because she believed her identity should be created by her own dreams, not by society’s expectations.
Life rewarded the courage of Apurva Varma in ways she never imagined.
The Crowns That Represent More Than Beauty
The journey of Apurva Varma expanded into fashion and pageantry, where she proudly earned the titles of Mrs. Bihar and Mrs. India. Those crowns represent much more than beauty for Apurva Varma. They symbolize resilience, discipline, confidence, and the belief that a woman can embrace intelligence, elegance, compassion, and ambition all at once.
Today, She proudly wears many identities.
She is an author.
A mentor.
A fashion and runway model.
A lifelong learner.
A woman who believes that true beauty lies in purpose, and true success lies in inspiring others.
How Apurva Varma Deals With Criticism
People often ask her how she deals with criticism.
Her answer is simple.
Critics have never been the enemies of Apurva Varma.
They have been her greatest teachers.
Every criticism strengthened the resolve of Apurva Varma.
Every rejection sharpened her focus.
Every obstacle became another reason for her to keep moving forward.
She has learned that you don’t silence critics by arguing with them.
You silence them by building a life that speaks louder than words.
She has also learned that the strongest people are not those who never fall.
They are the ones who rise every single time life knocks them down.
The Philosophy of Apurva Varma
- She believes in working silently.
- She believes in letting results introduce her.
- She believes that confidence comes from discipline, not noise.
- Most importantly, she believes that no dream is too big for someone willing to work relentlessly for it.
If the journey of her can teach anything, it is this:
Your beginnings do not define your destination.
Your failures do not define your future.
Your pain does not define your purpose.
You have the power to rewrite your story at any moment.
She did.
And every new chapter that Apurva Varma writes is dedicated to every person who has ever been told they are not enough.
This is not the end of the story of Apurva Varma.
It is only the beginning.
Apurva Varma
